I’ve never been much of a traveler but as a widow I have discovered I like to travel. I’ve been ticking off places on my bucket list. I’ll be off on another trip soon. I know you have heard me say “try new things”. Travel is not as hard as I thought it would be. My daughter and I have disagreed on how to travel and scheduling. I like to be unstructured, arrive at my destination and decide what to do as I wonder around and discover things. My daughter wants every minute of the trip well planned and accounted for always in advance. We have taken trips both ways. I think there of course advantages and disadvantages to each. Are you a planner or spontaneous?
How do things change when traveling as a widow? I think the biggest change is who you travel with each time. I find myself open to unfamiliar places and new experiences. Maybe you want to finally take that trip you have always wanted to take. Maybe you will visit relatives more often. Maybe you will even take it a step further and move somewhere else. It is important to be clear on what you hope to get out of the trip. Are their certain things that you must see? Are you hoping to relax? Here are some tips for traveling as a widow that have helped me.
1. Each day you should have at least:
One thing to see, one thing to do and fabulous dinner plans.
2. Sit and take in the view
Do nothing but in some place beautiful. Breathe in the appreciation for being there.
3. Always be safe
Don’t get trapped alone and be aware of pick pockets.
4. Choose your travel partners carefully.
Traveling can draw you closer or further apart from your travel companions.
5. Choose your souvenirs carefully.
I well planned photo is much better than a shelf sitter.
This may sound elementary, but for someone like me who almost never traveled, these have been lessons learned. The biggest thing I have acquired is a bigger world view. People are the same all over. We all have our loves and dislikes. We all struggle with our relationships, and having enough money and enough time. There are people meeting their true love for the first time and those losing the love of their life, both every moment. Travel makes me think of the phases of our lives. I don’t know if I’ll ever date again much less find another romantic love, but I know I will never forget the life I have lived, those I have loved and the places I have been. Be bold and adventuresome and find you best self somewhere else other than just home. Life is an adventure don’t miss it.
I’ll finish with a quote from Eleanor Roosevelt: “The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.”
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