Las Vegas Sniper Makes Many Widows

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Loss is never easy whether it is a slow death like cancer or a fast death like victims of the Las Vegas sniper. It all seems senseless and for days reporters have been trying to find out why the Las Vegas shooting happened. But, we know, there is no answer to the questions of “why?” Every widow asks herself, “Why him? and Why now? Would it be any easier to accept if we knew why? Maybe it would be and maybe not.
Even when being bedside with someone for a slow illness, you are still not ready to let go when the time comes for them to pass. The people at this country music festival were laughing, dancing, and having fun one minute then the next they were widows and widowers. In the flash of an eye their life changed and we know what that feels like as widows.

It is a tragedy to us as onlookers and devastating for those involved. There are people being born and people dying every minute of the day somewhere on earth. I know this is not a comforting thought but it gives a big picture view of life. Each life is short and glorious. I am thankful to be alive and I am trying to make the most of it.

No one could have foreseen the tragedy in Las Vegas, no one is to blame but the shooter. Our country mourns with our fellow countrymen. You can see the beauty of humanity as the people of Las Vegas pitch in to help each other, first at the event and now with donations of blood and the material goods needed. There is good coming out of bad and this is what we can create with God’s help.

Through acceptance I have been trying to rebuild my life. I know I don’t have it right just yet but I continue to grow. How do I fit it all in and relax while doing it? I think this will come with time and more confidence. I make lists and keep calendars but I feel I am always one step behind. Perhaps you can relate to my plight. I haven’t quite figured out my groove yet.

It’s been long enough since my husband has passed that I’ve learned some things about what works and what doesn’t. I had to learn housework from the beginning since my husband was a house husband. I have become more independent. I’m getting to know what I like and don’t like all over again. I’m learning that sometimes it’s okay to do what you want to do and not just what you know you should do.

My hope for those in the Las Vegas tragedy is that they will find peace and comfort. I also hope our lawmakers will figure out how to diminish the possibility of this happening again. I hope for you that you will find your way to acceptance and growth in your new life after loss. I keep trying new things including new activities, innovative ways of getting things done and dynamic ways of looking at things. Peace and All Good.


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  • Patricia D
    October 4, 2017 at 8:52 pm

    Yesterday at a religious-type book club, I mentioned that when something bad happens, we usually blame God, questioning Him as to “why”, stop going to church, give up our faith, etc………but in the long run, when we look back, we can always see some good come out of the tragedy. My husband died almost 20 years ago, and now I look back and think there is a silver lining because I am now living close to my daughters, their husbands, and my 7 grandchildren. We do so many things together since we live so close ~ this would not have happened if he lived. I didn’t want him to die and I feel ashamed to say something about a silver lining, but in a way, it is my way to cope.

    • A Widow's Heart
      October 7, 2017 at 6:29 am

      This is exactly how I have survived many tragedies in my life. When I look back I see the good that came from it in taking my life in new directions. It’s hard to see that when you are in it too close.