Trauma in our lives teaches us lessons, even ones we don’t want to learn. I do think there is good that comes out of bad. Do we call that God or the universe or our own choices? I’m not sure but we grow and change. We can choose to use that for good and growth. This is different for each of us. I’ve heard some people say that they wonder if their husband would be proud of them now. I do not live my life like that now because I never did in the past. I never had to question whether my husband was proud of me. He gave me his unwavering support during our lives together. He stayed at home with the kids so I could have a career and he loved it. When I was a nervous wreck and this was often, he could calm me down just by being near him or with a couple of words.
He taught me the meaning of self-sacrificing love. I’m also a realist. We fought like all couples and we definitely didn’t agree on most things. We didn’t concentrate on all the ways we were so not a like but found things we enjoyed together. I straight out miss my best friend. I am grateful for our lives together.
Gratitude is a grace we can give ourselves. It’s funny weird to say but there are lots of ways our lives could be worse. Here are some things I am thankful for and you can make your own list.
I have a home I love. It’s not fancy or something special but it’s exactly how I want it. Many others do not have a home.
Even though we are a family of three now instead of four, we laugh, we hug, we go on for each other. There are many that have never had a family or have lost their entire family.
I have a job I love and challenges me in a positive way. Many do hard back breaking work or do not have a job at all.
I may not be the picture of health by I am physically and emotionally strong and can work and have fun.
I have a strong family of faith that has held me up when I could not stand. They have continued to love me even when I don’t feel very loveable.
6. My past and my future
Tomorrow is Father’s Day. I have had many Fathers in my life and I am grateful for them all. I have grown so much and so far in a brief time in the past year and four months. I get things done and I love my life. A lot of it is attitude and gratitude and no regrets or “regurts”. Let me know who and what you are thankful for today. Lean into grace and gratitude. Most of all love yourself and love your life.
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